Why telling expectant mothers to 'just relax' may not be the best advice
It is common for friends and family to tell pregnant women to stay calm and avoid stress for the sake of their baby. While it is true that a mother’s mental health is closely linked to her child’s development, experts suggest that simply telling a mother-to-be not to worry can sometimes have the opposite effect.
Psychologists explain that pregnancy is a period of significant physical and emotional change. When people constantly tell a woman to 'just relax,' it can make her feel guilty if she is struggling with anxiety or stress. This pressure to be perfectly happy can lead to more stress, as the mother may feel she is failing if she cannot control her emotions.
Instead of focusing on the idea that stress is always harmful, health professionals encourage a more supportive approach. They suggest that it is normal to experience a range of emotions during pregnancy. Rather than dismissing a mother's concerns, it is more helpful to provide practical support and create an environment where she feels comfortable sharing her feelings.
In Singapore, where the pace of life can be fast, expectant mothers often face pressure to balance work and family preparations. Experts emphasize that acknowledging these challenges is a healthy first step. By moving away from the 'happy mother, happy baby' expectation, society can better support the mental well-being of women during this important time.